DAY 28 - RAMADAN: The 3 Stages of Ramadan

As I contemplated participating in Ramadan, I had numerous discussions with friends, colleagues and students about what I should expect during the month. The answers were fairly consistent. Everyone said that the first day or two might be tough, but then it would just become normal and not a big deal. I definitely found that to be true.

But I was warned that as the month progressed, I would find that I had less energy - especially in the last week. Well that has definitely been true. The past few days have been a bit rough. I have found myself having a little bit of trouble concentrating and I keep losing my words. This has been coined "the Ramadan effect". Everyone laughs about it. During this past week, I have learned about the 3 Ashras and their correlation to the 3 - 10 day periods of Ramadan. This website explains it well, but I will try to put it in my own words based on what I have heard, although I certainly don't pretend to be an expert.

The first 10 days are the "Days of Mercy". Fasting is easiest during this first period due to "Allah's mercy". Most people don't really struggle during this time with giving up food, water, etc. (although for those giving up coffee and cigarettes it may be more difficult) thanks to Allah being merciful and making this period quite bearable. Muslims should be expressing their gratitude to Allah for his mercy.

The second 10 days are the "Days of Forgiveness". During this period, people should be becoming more spiritual since they have been praying more consistently and, because they are not eating, they should be more focused than usual on their relationship with Allah. This is time for reflection on certain behaviors and seeking Allah's forgiveness for any transgressions.

The third 10 days are the "Days of Seeking Refuge". This is the most difficult period of Ramadan. People are starting to feel more hungry, less energetic and perhaps even more irritable. Allah intended for this time to be more challenging. People need to really be committed to finish the entire month. This is the time when Muslims should be seeking a reprieve from hell.

I will be honest and tell you that over the last few days I have thought about quitting. I have had to fight an inner battle with myself to complete this journey. Luckily, the voice in my head that said "You can't quit now. Think of how proud you will be when you're done and how disappointed you will be if you quit" has WON. And the absolute pleasure and satisfaction that I have felt every day at sunset when I break the fast has been worth the entire experience.

Tomorrow is the last day. It will be 29 days this year instead of 30 because of the phases of the moon. Then the holiday of Eid will commence. I'm looking forward to participating in this as we all break the fast together.